First thing is first:
If you are going to be brave with me, working to discover new insights about path to a life you love, I think it’s only fair I share with you my journey to insight.
Boundaries are My Friend
- I have a long history of running myself into the ground (*cough* perfectionism). Then I had a wise teacher explain to me that I am the vehicle through which my passions will come to life. In other words, I needed to slow down and fill my own love bucket. Learning to say ‘no’ to things you don’t want, is actually learning to say ‘yes’ to the life you DO want. It’s so liberating! I love to help others develop empowering boundaries too! When I love and respect myself, life is a lot easier, and so are relationships.
Perfection is an Infection
- Ding, Ding! Did I just light something up in you? Yeah, you know perfectionism. She’s a vicious and critical little thing. I used to sit on the edge of making changes, wavering until things were ‘just right’. I was scared to claim what I really wanted because, what if I was wrong?! Well, guess what? It’s all subjective. That’s why I love and live by the principals I’ve learned through Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You can learn too! 3. I’m Not a Fortune Teller • Wait, what? I’m not?! Does sitting around just
I’m Not a Fortune Teller
- Wait, what? I’m not?! Does sitting around just knowing what is going to happen if you do this or you do that, sound familiar? Yeah. Fortune Telling was my 1st career. Now I utilize mindfulness to open myself to what is actually happening in THIS MOMENT to help me make wise choices about the moments to come. Not really sure what mindfulness is? Check out this blog post. It’s not as scary or difficult as you think. Once I shook this habit, I opened up to being able to really notice what was blocking me from what I really wanted
Respect and Love for Myself = Healthy Life and Healthy Relationships
- So, I used to walk around thinking I needed everyone else to believe I was ‘special’ in order to own my unique being. I thought other people’s confirmation would suddenly cause me to blossom into this person who would finally claim my space in the world; You know, I’d become Beyonce. Um…..No. It doesn’t work that way. I had to start to really KNOW myself. How can I teach another person what I like and what makes me tick if I don’t know myself!? So now, I take myself on daily dates with a fabulous self care routine so I can continue to know what I need and love myself. Aren’t you ready to get to know your beautiful self, too?